Your family needs some serious help. Its not like they had OPs permission or OPs husband is a toddler that cannot speak up for himself. Right. What if he had an asthma attack and couldn't breathe because he couldn't find his inhaler? I have a family friend that keeps about 6 inhalers around at all times. Not a "real" man. People are saying NTA because the question was about whether or not she was TA for uninviting her family from the wedding and not about how good she is to her fianc. NTA you are prioritising yourself and your mental health and thats the right thing to do. Lots of things can go wrong and they have no idea how big it can be until it hits them on the head. Gotta draw the line somewhere, and these people are just awful. I wonder what they would do if OP was engaged to a big dude with anger issues. Assholes do this. You don't have to invite people to your wedding that are negative. Best of luck. You know. I think the best thing you could do for yourself is to go no-contact with your father. That's your partner - and your family. NTA. Also if she had to beg and beg for you to go with her she may have assumed you didn't want to come and she was relieving you of a burden when she cancelled. How manly would they look in prison. AITA for uninviting my cousin, brother, uncle and dad to my wedding over a prank? What a nightmare. My cousin is begging that we talk, my uncle has been quiet, but dad is so mad and now he's getting mom involved to get me to reconsider this decision. The man loves you but hes at risk of death and financial hardship being associated with you as long as your family is involved. Stick to your guns, because you're completely right. Pranking is meant to be HARMLESS fun. Honestly if I were your fiance I wouldn't even want to marry into that nonsense. Youre supposed to protect him just like he is you, even if that means from your family. Two times I haven't had any inhaler and started wheezing. Before or after he passed out/died? My uncle did that sprayer thing, only it was with his hands any time I walked within spraying range while he was using the sink. Hiding inhaler is not a joke and slashing his car tires, i assume they paid money to get things right? Idiots. Everyone thinks it's some made up thing just used as an excuse to get out of things. NTA. NTA. As a life long asthmatic I could never, ever, forgive someone who hid my inhaler and you are awesome for having your fiancs back. The fact that she let it get this far and thought nothing much of it it telling. OP, better keep that shiny new spine and stop accepting this toxic masculinity. I wandered around saying "fucking men!" My stepdad and I have a very good relationship. NTA. Timmy will never feel comfortable and will always be on guard for the next shit show. YTA. Everyone should be laughing and no one's life should be in danger over one. If its not too late/theres texted proof, it seems like a good time to call the police and also to file a small claims suit. They might try to pull a family play where none of your family comes if they don't. They have it, but it burns everyone around them. Or actually the hill they tried to kill him on. Id take this opportunity to get them out of your life permanently. Stop trying to make him love you. If I was Tim I'd never see them again, and while I wouldn't or couldn't stop you from being in contact with them, I couldn't understand why you would want to. AITA for uninviting my stepdad from my wedding so my brothers could come? Yeah, garage would make me think of parking too cause it's the same word in German, but it's sometimes just difficult to remember or think of the various names for services and shops as they either depend on US vs UK (or other places too) or are e.g. After the tire slashing I would have called the cops and gone NC. They committed at least one crime. That kind of behavior is toxic and pervasive. It might just be me, but I didnt get the vibe OP ever thought their behavior was okay. OP needs to ask her dad what hed think if her future MIL learned she had what could be a fatal allergy to nuts & decided to slip her some to test her womanliness. Saving this comment and links because this makes me think of my own dad so much right now. These are the types of jackasses that don't believe food allergies are real. I absolutely hate when doctors don't warn you about a scary possibility like that. I cant imagine how they will treat your kids. Sounds like the boys in your family have an issue with being held accountable for their actions. He should get to decide. NTA, that's not typical "men stuff", your dad, uncle, brother and cousin are bullies. They will have to live with the consequences of their "funny" prank and I find them being uninvited "just as funny". and harmful. When I was little we were best friends. They might be trying to kill him, asthma is no joke. Were I Tim Id be rethinking marrying you. Got to admit that if I were Tim, Id run. So OP is an AH just because her family members are jerks who refuse to take her seriously until she was forced to escalate the situation? Those two alone are enough to go low or no contact. It shows how little respect they have for you both, so why should they be involved in your life, nevermind your wedding. The men in her family are clearly toxic, and she seems to write it off as "boys will be boys". Isnt it weird they think the respect they have for him matters? By rejecting non-essential cookies, Reddit may still use certain cookies to ensure the proper functionality of our platform. That their opinions matter more to you than his. Once, when I was hospitalized, I was suddenly unable to breathe due to fluid in my lungs- thanks pneumonia- and it was one of the most terrifying things I've ever experienced. This is damn near attempted murder. Ngl he did what he could to help me out with school and everything, he even offered to fund my wedding which is going to be in 5 weeks time and I'm very grateful for that though this was his decision. This is a really bad troll. NTA and personally I'd go no contact. Somehow, they dont understand how serious their actions are. Id be long gone by the time they were slashing my tires. Tbh the fact that they did this shows me what kind of character THEY are and honestly, i would have kicked them out aswell. They hid his damn inhaler for 3 days. NTA and you made the right decision sticking up for your fianc as he is obviously madly in love with you to put up with your families bullshit. And to also add that theyre belittling his mental health too. NTA this is toxic masculinity and honestly who tf hides an inhaler from an asthmatic?! When you cut off toxic people, it makes room for better people in your life. See our ~~*Best Of*~~ "Most Controversial" at /r/AITAFiltered! Taking away someone inhaler is life threatening. "I asked my fiance if I made the wrong decision and je said it's my wedding and I get to decide eventually but I knew he said that because he's biased. I see other people saying this is not pranks but bullying and im like bruh they hid his inhaler!!! NTA. This is abuse. NTA. Truth is Timmy no longer feels comfortable being around them so this is saying something but he says he doesn't want to drive a wedge between me and my family. If they wanted to be at your wedding they would have respected both you and your fiance instead of bully/assault him. My asthma is not that severe but Ive been there I really needed the inhaler. Honestly I would elope and not tell them and start getting closer with his family and make distance with your family. Fucking abuse. (Think judgmental) So I did my darndest to keep him away from them. NTA - They tried to kill your fiance. # redditAITA #redditgermaphobe #entitledpeople 0:00 Intro 0:40 Story 1 This is the reason to establish care with a trusted GP so that if somethjng goes wrong you aren't in that situation. You wouldnt hide someones epipen or insulin. Yup - Manslaughter for you, buddy. Privacy Policy. Destroying property too? I'd be livid, and they would stay uninvited. I was livid and called him out, but argued with my mother about it and about how she allowed this to happen. And to add, men who are testing his manliness are the exact kind of men that dont have a clue what it means to be a real man. and our This is absolutely mind-boggling to me, considering everything. Tell him they're for his wife or next of kin. Dont just erase them from your wedding, yeet them from your life. A prank leaves people laughing all together over something silly and stupid. You joke, but men let their toxic/insecure masculinity come between them and lifesaving healthcare. I hope he can see sense and decides not to marry you, you let them bully him for WAY too long. Maybe to you. Fuck people like this and their asinine 'pranks'. Who slashed tyres as a prank? NTA they took the pranks way too far. Are there other men in their circle? They dont deserve to be at the wedding. NTA btw. AITA for uninviting my stepdad from my wedding so my brothers could come? Just not worth the hassle for someone who won't even bother standing up for you until your life is in danger. Get ready to LC to NC. ". I will say though - you NEED to go to bat for him more. Seriously. See our ~~*Best Of*~~ "Most Controversial" at /r/AITAFiltered! Who are they to judge masculinity? And for what, so he can be able to 'prove' himself to them? I'm 33 M and I recently went back to college for a BFA. Because I'm sure as hell don't think it will stop at the wedding. If anyone did this to my husband I would have saw red. His entire family has disowned me and they're all blocked on my phone after sending me awful messages. Your fianc deserves your support and protection from your asshoke family members. My friends and I, all Afab and babyfaced enough to look like we were 18-25 once got asked what was holding up the car in a concerned tone while we were trying to change a tire. They also tested his fishing and hunting skills, overwhelmed him with hypothetical scenarios to test his decision making abilities/mental strength. Heaven forbid you have a son that needs an EpiPen with these monsters around. These are not pranks. NTA. I'd tell your mom that you would be ashamed of your children if they acted like your dad. And maybe, just maybe your dad and other family members involved will get some personal growth out of this and grow up to be a proper men. Will they get the same abuse? Hiding an inhaler when away from home could be fatal. The only excuse is that she has been raised in this toxic environment and does not realise how bad it is. I would have brought the hammer after the first incident. Imagine what more they will do now just for revenge. NTA - those things might be what they do to test people but it isn't what "men do". What they have done to him is downright CRIMINAL. I honestly would've dumped OP a long time ago. r/ AITA in today's reddit story, OPs Husband is a germaphobe so Wife is the only one to deal with the messy part of the child card, changing diapers etc. They took time to think then gave me an ultinatum stating that if our stepdad is coming then they won't be. Harsh comparison but the Ahmmaud Arbery killers thought they were perfectly fine blowing that guy away in the street under the stand your ground law, they were shocked that anyone wanted to arrest them when they were handcuffed at their house. Someone should teach these men a lesson. 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